Words Never To Say When Having This Talk

Good Guests,

I am compelled to exclaim from the point of view of a victim and survivor of sexual abuse, incest, and rape, that there are just certain words that ought "NEVER" be used during an anonymous conversation, an open exchange or talk, or an actual reporting of a sexual offence. Or offences of a sexual nature from one person upon one and or another.

God please! These are the very words that help victims of sexual abuse keep and maintain silence rather than speak out. Like invisible secret places, I withdrew, time and time again.

"I don't think that's a crime.", were words spoken to me by a crisis operator just a very short few weeks ago. Yes, while I was seeking counsel in the middle of the night, when I heard this crisis manger express those words, "I don't think that's a crime", I lost a tiny piece of my heart and then we had a very informative exchange. She knew then, but never ever, please? 

Ma'am, Sir., please never say this ever; "Not that I/We think you're saying a lie".

Or, "It's your own fault."

Oh yes, there was once a time, while working in a Big Blue Box, called Best Buy, I reported to my manager that a man exposed and toyed with his pecker while I attempted to pee. Nothing was done by this manager named I-Won't-Say. No police. Not even a written report. I was a target. Seen.

Never ever say, "You asked for it."

Or, "I need evidence."

 What? Not that I think you're saying a lie.